I’m betting we’ve all heard the phrase, “you can’t make everyone happy”. But we’ve all heard it for good reason – it’s completely true. I feel like striving to make everyone happy is kind of sweet in a way, but realistically, we should accept that it’s nearly impossible. Everyone is different, and has different needs. Depending on the amount of people you are trying to please, you must remember that you are only one person.
If you’ve ever flown on a plane, you might be familiar with the idea “putting your mask on first”. If you haven’t had the experience, basically it means that you need to put your oxygen mask on first before helping another person with theirs in an emergency. Too often, self-care is the first thing to go when we have a lot on our plate. It’s so important that we take care of ourselves and our needs, or we won’t be able to function at our full capacity. To be quite honest, it’s not worth being focused on others happiness at the expense of your own.
The beautiful part of all of us, is that we are so different. Diversity is something that should be embraced, but it is also the reason it’s so difficult to please EVERYONE. A lot of us have varying preferences, and that’s okay. Instead of catering ourselves to try to fit so many different preferences, we need to focus on staying true to ourselves and our needs.
And yes, staying true to yourself is going to mean picking your battles. We don’t need to constantly focus on everyone else’s happiness, but we also don’t need to be butting heads all the time either. Stay strong, express yourself, but know when to walk away or leave a situation be. You’re entitled to your opinion and others are entitled to theirs. Fighting can end up leading to stress and resentment – no one wants to be dealing with that if it’s preventable.
Obviously, there are going to be certain people in our lives that we WANT to make happy, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that! It’s always going to be in our best interest to focus on good quality relationships with a few closest to us, and ourselves. No more spreading ourselves thin and feeling miserable focusing our energy on all of those around us! Look in the mirror, take a deep breath and say, “It’s time to take care of me!”